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We are not a service club; we are not a social club. Your chapter exists to develop the future leaders of the global community! It is up to you to be in charge of your own Leadership Development. You are the person responsible for your chapter's success or failure!

1. Hold a general Membership meeting every month.
2. Instill a sense of responsibility into your membership
3. Have a guest speaker at the every monthly meeting.
4. Publish a monthly newsletter.
5. Talk to your membership constantly.
6. Run at least one training seminar per quarter.
7. Stop running projects that are old and past their usefulness.
8. If you are the President, never forget it. Always act like one.
9. Go out and sell your chapter, everywhere you go.
10. Never forget why your chapter exists.

(Reprinted form the Central Region "Communicator," Canada Jaycees.)

Promoting the value of Jaycees

Why should we pay dues to State and National?
We will start our own community club.

The way I answer this statement is to compare that to starting a local hamburger stand vs opening a McDonald's franchise. It costs a little more to buy a McDonald's franchise, but you get a well respected name, excellent training, a business plan, district, regional, state and national support and a proven product that works.

With a local hamburger stand you have to start from zero with none of these advantages. How many times they have seen a local food place go out of business? How many failed McDonald's restaurants they have seen. An organization with
outside support stands a much better chance of success.

We use this comparison to explain to newer Jaycees the value
of being associated with the State and National. It is logical
and easily grasped. I thought maybe you could use it.


Mike Marshall, 63rd President


To be strong that nothing can
disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness and prosperity
to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that
there is something special in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and
make your optimism come true.
To think only the best, to work only for the
best and expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success
of others as you are your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on
to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give
every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for
anger, too strong for fear, and too
happy to permit the presence of trouble.



To laugh often and love much;
to win the respect of intelligent
persons and the affection of children;
to earn the approbation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;
to appreciate beauty; to find the best in
others; to give of one's self; to leave the
world a bit better, whether by a healthy
child, a garden patch or a redeemed social
condition; to have played and laughed with
exultation; to know that even one life has
breathed easier because you have lived --
this is to have succeeded.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson


SUPERMAN 1938-1992

Did anyone take notice that one of the most all around good guys of this generation is no longer around to fight for Truth, Justice and the American Way? Fictional or not, Superman was around for 54 years and influenced many young readers through his heroic deeds in the comic books, newspapers, television, and the movies. He was constantly defending us against natural disasters, villains, and sometimes even ourselves.

I guess that I've been wondering whether he was destroyed by a creature called Doomsday, just so the comic book publishers could make a fast buck, or is it a sign of the times? Are most of our Heroes and Heroines being sold out or not living up to our expectations? This sudden departure of Superman and some recent attitude changes on my own behalf has really caused me to review Superman's life and my own ideals on heroism as well.

In retrospect there is no doubt that the character of Superman was unsurpassed in mighty deeds. But lets take a look at the the costs to the man of steel to achieve these feats. The first one that comes to mind is that he was one of a kind, like from another planet, singular, different from the rest of us. Well at times I think that this must have been really hard to handle being so alone. Secondly, he had to be Clark Kent part of the time (or should we say a secret identity) so that he wouldn't have to live up to everybody's expectations 24 hours a day and maybe as Clark he could experience a semblance of everyday life. Third but no less important, what about his relationship with Lois? I guess to answer that question I should ask another. What woman would be able to have her man flying off to parts unknown at a moments notice at anytime? Some partners could handle their significant other flying off maybe once a week or once a month, but being a Super Hero has its costs.

Presently looking at my past involvement in the Jaycee organization I too work real hard to be a Super Hero, not for the glory, or self gratification. But because of lack of heroes available for the job. Well, I've found that like Superman, the Job of Super Hero does have its costs, being different for example is not always an advantage because come people do genuinely admire you for those qualities while others wonder what planet you came from and will always question your intentions. Also expectations called for in this job of Super Hero are very demanding, leaving very little time for the Clark side (balance), and Lois. Even trying to be a Super Hero has its costs and only the lessons learned and time will tell if it was worth it for this Did/Didn't Wannabe Super Hero.

Personally I think Superman let himself be destroyed because of the demands called for in his profession a and perhaps (because I'm a romantic at heart) because of Lois. As for me, I'm retiring to regain balance and you might say getting ready for someday, a Lois in my like. No one should feel that they have to try to make up for what others are not doing. The answer is simple, we need more regular Heroes. More regular Heroes or heroines can do the tasks at hand better than one Super Hero. So please for yourselves and for the ideals that this organization stands for "Tell
Everyone Everything about the Jaycees" and send all the Super Heroes into early retirement so that they will be around if we really need them. The Job is simple ask people to join, it makes the job of being a Hero easy if there is more of the.




The Tates Family: First there is Dick Tate, who wants to run everything. Then there is Ro Tate, who tries to change everything. Agi Tate stirs up trouble whenever possible and Iri Tate always lends him a hand.

Whenever new ideas are suggested Hesi Tate and Vegi Tate pour cold water on them. Imi Tate tries to copy everyone. Devas Tate loves to be disruptive, and Poten Tate wants to be a big shot.

But it's Facili Tate, Cogi Tate, and Medi Tate who always save the day, getting everyone to Cooperate.



A Jaycee is ignorant, and he has a distorted sense of values. He is so ignorant that he doesn't know some things are impossible, and he goes ahead and does them. He is so backward that he still believes in the old ideals that made this country great. He denies the proposition that it's not what you know, but whom you know, and thinks that success comes to a man who can deliver the goods. He is so mixed up that he thinks it's better to be right than rich, and he can rise highest by staying on the level. He thinks it is better to be free than secure - better to run his own government than to beg from it - and he looks for a helping hand at the end of his own arm.

A Jaycee is so inexperienced that he can't solve a community problem by sitting in an air conditioned office and drifting off into the cool stratosphere of abstract thought. He has to put his shoulder to the wheel and his hand in God's hand, and pray like a lost sinner while he totes the barges and lifts the bales.

You can't recognize a Jaycee just by looking at him. To thousands of poor children at Christmas time, he looks like Santa Claus. To millions of citizens who see him sweating in the summer heat to get out the vote, he looks like Uncle Sam in a limp shirt. To the forgotten people in the polio wards and the TB hospitals who depend on fellows like him to gather money that saves human life, he looks like an angel. And to the political crooks and demagogues who creep into the local governments to pull down the wool curtain of secrecy, close the doors of public office, and steal away the peoples' liberties, he looks like a hangman.

And even if you know a Jaycee today, you won't know him tomorrow. Today he may be an obscure clerk; but after awhile in the Jaycees - after getting into the bloodstream of community affairs - he'll be hiring and firing clerks by the dozen. Today he may be a follower; tomorrow he will be a leader. But in the meantime he will spend time on committees, or running around on cold nights helping some kind of improvement projects, or standing on a street corner with a loud speaker telling people to give, and vote, and go, and come and listen and be concerned. and he will start getting public recognition; and people he doesn't know from Adam will call him by name on the street; and he will be on speaking terms with hundreds he never knew before; and his boss will begin to realize what a valuable employee he is; and his fellow citizens will be turning to him for leadership. And he will be lucky if his wife loves him enough to gripe like the dickens because he doesn't spend more time at home.

But his real reward will be the comfortable realization that he is doing things that build communities and states and nations. He can say with solemn pride that wile others stayed in the background, he came forward and threw down the gauntlet to every form of injustice that hung over his communities and neighbors. He can say that while others were following the crowd, he followed his conscience; and that he was working to keep every dot and dash in the Constitution while others were only concerned with putting dollar signs on the ledger. When someone was merely yelling, "Throw the rascal out!", he was ready to step in. While others were pointing at the dirt, he was swinging a broom...

John Ben Shepperd
Former Attorney General
State of Texas
Past President, Texas Jaycees
Past National President
United States Jaycees 1947-48


-Jim Savage

Winning is accomplished by great people. Great people are ordinary people with extraordinary amounts of determination...to use the ability they have.

In his opening comments at our three-day "Born to Win" seminar, Zig Ziglar corporation President, Ron Ezinga, clarifies the statement,"you are born to win," by saying, "There isn't such a thing as a born winner..."Born to Win" simply means that we are all born with the opportunity to win!"

So, YOU are afforded the opportunity to DO and BE something special, because you are BORN WITH THE OPPORTUNITY TO WIN!


Because I spent so much of my life involved in teaching and coaching, I sincerely believe that athletics are very much like the game of life. Those who participate learn great lessons. Every team begins the game with the opportunity to win. We excitedly witnessed our United States hockey team defeat a more talented Soviet team in the 1980 Olympics; while in 1988 we sadly watched as our basketball team lost to and inferior group of Soviet players. We learned that the outcome is always in question...regardless of what the match-ups may look like on paper.

And those who witnessed the event, will never forget the individual effort and heroics of Greg Louganis, who crashed into the diving board head first and overcame this adversity to win the gold Medal in diving for his country. What an inspiration!


As you and I make the decision to DO and BE something special in the game of life, we begin with the opportunity to win big - or fail miserably. What makes the difference? Success begins with choosing the team we will play on. Chicago has the "Bears," Dallas has the "Cowboys," New Orleans has the "Saints," Los Angeles has the "Rams" and "Raiders," Phoenix has the "Cardinals," and on and on. However, the teams you and I will choose form exist in every city and town in the world, so let's identify them by the "mascots." While there are many choices, most choose between four:

1. The All-cities "Yabuts":
The "Yabuts" think they know how to win, as a matter of fact they talk about it quite convincingly... up to a point. When told they have an opportunity to be successful, the conversation goes something like this, "Yabut, you know that I don't sell very will in the last three months of the year"...or."Yabut, the weather is so bad here at that time of the year"...or,"Yabut, I think I'm getting a cold"..."Yabut..." I think you get the picture. A wise man once said, "Nobody is defeated until he starts blaming SOMEONE OR SOMETHING else." The "Yabuts" have the answer. It just happens to be the wrong answer.

2. The All-cities "Gunnadues":
The "Gunnadues" are some of the best-intentioned folks you could ever meet. They really understand winning, and they would have won - if they had only followed through. They study the success principles very carefully, and just as success drifts past them, they realize what they were "gunnadue." Their conversation goes like this, "Yes, I know it's important to be on time for work and meetings and I was gunnadue that, but there was a great late movie on last night and I just couldn't turn off the T.V." Or they might say, "I really was gunnadue my correspondence on a timely basis, but I misplaced my file and by the time it turned up..." The "Gunnadues" never really understood the old saying, "We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, others judge us by what we do!" If they had only done what they were gunnadue.

3. The All-cities "Wushawooda's":
the "Wushawooda's" have an excellent perspective on success...hindsight. They say, "I really wushawooda kept track of how I was spending my time." They "wush they wooda" been kinder, smiled more often, taken time for their families, paid more attention to their friends and not been ruled by the "tyranny of the urgent." "Wushawooda's" don't understand that "Permissiveness is simply neglect of duty." They know everything about success...after the fact.

4. The All-cities "Gladidids":
The "Gladidids" are truly a special group. The "Wushawood's" drive the "Gladidids" homes and admire them on weekends. The "Gunnadues" wanted to join them, but just couldn't quite get around to it. The "Yabuts" could have been "Gladidids", yabut destiny didn't smile on them.

You can hear the sounds of the "Gladidids" as they say things like, "Man I'm sure glad I did what my professor asked me to do on that assignment. Not only did I make a good grade, but I learned many things that will help me in the future." Or, "I sure am glad I didi what I told the boss I was going to do. It seemed like a minor project, but it really was important to her."

The "Gladidids" are pleased that they were disciplined enough to do what they should instead of always doing what they wanted to do...like the "Yabuts, Gunnadues, and Wushawood's"

As you are choosing the team you will join, let me encourage you to consider the advice of the ancient Proverb that says, "He that walketh with wise men shall be wise." (Proverbs 13:20) The good news is that you can change teams anytime you really want to. So, why not accept the challenge of joining up (and winning) with the "Gladidids" in 1993 - you'll be GLAD - U - DID!

Jim Savage is Vice President of Training and Consulting for the Zig Ziglar Corporation. He co-authored the book, TOP PERFORMANCE with Zig and is in great demand as a speaker and consultant in people skills training.


Janet Harding, Maryland Jaycees

Almost every chapter has one. You know, that person who thinks that their way is always the best, and will go to any length to bully his way through. The meetings run overtime because he or she constantly dominates the conversation with their perspective. Let's face it, meetings are, for the most part, kind of boring. (Unless, of course, you take an active position to spice them up!) When confronted with this type of meeting, members tend to lose interest quickly.

The TANK not only runs over you on the way to it's objectives, it destroys everything around them. Imagine that you are a member of a Jaycee chapter. You sit in the audience and watch this for on at every meeting. The presiding officer, chairman or supervisor can't seem to maintain control over his own meeting. You gradually become tired of all the arguing and attitudes, and decide not to come back again. Sound familiar?

Someone not accustomed to dealing with a TANK will frequently freeze up, becoming unable to function effectively. but KEEP BREATHING! Remember, you are running the show! What are you going to do?

1. You should always maintain eye contact with the tank. Not being able to
look them in the eye is a sign of weakness, of submission.
2. Allow them some time to run down, or at least get their point across.
Once the point is across and they become redundant, or go off on a
- Use a hand signal to stop them. (NO, not that one!) Hold your hand
up in a "stop" sign. You don't have to look like a crossing guard,
- At the same time, say their name in a firm manner. Don't
however, make it look like you're losing your cool.
- Then say what you need to say, using "I" language and "we"
language. Keep away from the "You" statements because that puts
your tank on the defensive, and he might try to relaunch his
- Align with the higher intent of why you are there. Over and
above all, there should be one common goal that everyone wants.
Relate it here.
- Pace them. Duplicate their tone and the speed at which they are
speaking. If they are speaking fast, start just a little slower than
they are and bring them down to a calmer pace.

John: I've always done it that way. This new way isn't going to work.
You're going to have to use the old way...
Mary: (Holds up Hand) John. I understand that there's a concern over the
new plan, but our survey indicates that members don't want to
keep doing this project the same way. We all want this project to
succeed so we can raise much needed capital, but we're not
solving anything by arguing. Our goals are both the same, it's
our ideas and perspective that are different. If you'd like to talk
meeting. I'll be available

Then continue with your meeting. Be prepared to deal with John after the meeting, and to be friendly. Be confident, assured and have your facts prepared! Good luck!



"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts: It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home...

The remarkable thing is, you have a choice every day regarding the attitude you will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way...we cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude....

I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you..."


It amuses me to think that your organization spends so much time looking for new members when I was there all the time. Do you remember me?

I'm the person who was asked to join. I paid my dues and them was asked to be a loyal and faithful member.

I'm the person who came to every meeting, but nobody paid any attention to me. I tried several times to be friendly, but everyone seemed to have their own friends to talk to and be with. I sat down among some unfamiliar faces several times, but they didn't talk to me.

I had hoped someone would ask me to join one of the committees or to somehow participate and contribute - but no one did.

Finally, because of illness, I missed a meeting. The next month no one asked me where I had been. I guess it didn't matter very much whether I was there or not. On the next meeting date I decided to stay home and watch a good television program. When I attended the next meeting no one asked where I was the month before.

You might say that I'm a good person a family person, that I hold a responsible job and love my community.

You know who else I am? I'm the member who never came back!

Think about it and take action to fix it! Officers of many organizations complain that no one wants to run for office or work on a committee. Maybe these members have never been asked or were unavailable the last time they were asked and are hesitant to step forward. It is easy for small groups to form that unintentionally appear to discourage others from joining in. Do you have a welcoming committee at your meetings? Is there someone to greet the guest and new members (including those who haven't been to a meeting in awhile), introduce them around, and see to it the they are an active part of the meeting?



The majority of us lead quiet unheralded lives as we pass through this world. There will most likely be on ticker-tape parades for us, no monuments created in our honor. But that does not lessen our possible impact, for there are scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come along; people who will appreciate our compassion, our encouragement, who will need our unique talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took time to share what we had to give.

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. It’s overwhelming to consider the continuous opportunities there are to make our love felt.

-Leo Buscaglia


Sample Prospective Member Letter

Dear «FirstName»,

CONGRATULATIONS! You have been nominated for membership in the Princeton Jaycees. What is a Jaycee Chapter?

A Jaycee Chapter is:

A place where young people gather and where true friends can be found.

A place where young people can serve others and learn from that service.

A place where young people belong and a place where they become.

A place where leadership training is promised and where self improvement is delivered.

A place young people chose to join and a place we are proud to share.

This place is Princeton Jaycees. The person is you.

The time is now.

As a member of the Princeton Jaycees, you will have opportunities to participate in projects and programs that benefit both our community and yourself. You will learn about yourself and others while you work, and ultimately, you will grow as a person because of your experiences.

«FirstName», we will be calling you concerning the Princeton Jaycees. Please consider joining our organization. We encourage you to take advantage of this special opportunity to get involved. It can make a positive difference in your life and your community.


Derek Barton, President

In an environment that fosters true friendship, Jaycees offer young people, age 21 to 39, the best opportunities for community service and self-improvement.


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